Signs Your Date is Moving Too Fast

You’re looking for a long-term relationship, and your date just wants to “Netflix and chill.” Or maybe, your date won’t stop talking about themselves. You call your date the most exciting person you’ve ever met, but there’s no room in the conversation for your thoughts.

Seem familiar? Signs like these show that you may need to slow down and take a step back in your new relationship. Here are a few other tell-tale signs that your date is moving too fast:

You’re Not Giving Each Other Space

Remember how exciting it was to get together with your date? You couldn’t wait to see them again, because you were so excited about them.

If this feeling fades quickly, especially if you find yourself constantly checking in with each other instead of spending quality time apart, chances are you’re moving too fast.

Your Date Has Unrealistic Expectations

If your date is beginning to have high expectations of you, it’s a sign that they’re moving too fast. In the early stages of a relationship, no one can perfectly meet all of their date’s needs or desires. So when someone sets themselves up for disappointment from the get-go, don’t be surprised if their frustrations begin to escalate.

You’re Having Sex Too Soon

When all you want is sex, your date becomes nothing more than an object for your pursuit of pleasure. Determining whether someone else is suitable for you has very little to do with sex. However, it does have everything to do with giving yourself time to get to know them.

You’re Making Major Life Decisions Together

When you commit to someone, you should be making decisions about your life together. You shouldn’t be rushing into major decisions like moving in with your date or getting married; profound moments that require careful consideration. Your relationship isn’t ready for these kinds of big steps if it’s only been a couple of weeks since the two of you began dating.

You Already Trust Them

It’s normal to share your past relationships, family politics, and views on life before you truly know another person. However, you should only be revealing this type of information once you’ve built a strong foundation of trust with someone else. It takes time before we can honestly know what kind of character someone has, which is why you should never feel pressured to open up.

To Sum Up…

If your date is moving too fast, don’t continue doing things that aren’t working for you. Instead, take a step back and try to determine why they’re acting like this. Is it because they’re trying to force things and convince you to want the same things that they do? Or, is it because they’re still excited about your relationship and can’t help themselves?

It’s better to find out now than months down the road. Take this advice with a grain of salt, but remember: you don’t need to rush things to find love. You just need to take your time and give yourself the space you deserve.

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