7 Reasons Why Couple Conflicts Are a Normal Thing

Conflicts and their resolution are the only way to achieving harmony as a couple. Find out what you can gain if you stop avoiding conflict.

You will trust each other more

Conflicts that cannot be quickly resolved terrify many couples so much that they try to avoid them by all means. They believe such quarrels to be fatal to the relationship… but this is completely wrong.

After resolving a conflict you will be less afraid of the next one. You will trust yourself and your partner more, knowing that you can handle disagreements. As a result, you will not put off difficult conversations with your partner until the last moment. You will realize that it is better to not bottle up negative emotions, but instead find out what’s wrong as soon as possible.

You will feel much better after a quarrel

Expressing your emotions and letting off steam will relieve tension, anxiety, and fear. This will have a positive effect on both your mental and physical health. Of course, you shouldn’t pour all your toxic thoughts onto your partner. Though sometimes it’s better to express everything that bothers you rather than keep it inside and wait until everything has somehow settled down.

Your partner will know your thoughts and feelings

No matter how close you are, your partner cannot read your mind. They may not know how much something hurts you.

Try not to place blame, but instead express your feelings and show how your partner’s behavior is affecting you. Psychologists call this “self-statements”. For example, you might say, “I’m completely fed up with your work.” A self-statement conveying the same thought would sound like this: “I’m very upset that you often come home late. I’d like to spend more time with you.”

Quarrels are said to reveal our worst traits. But they can also expose our best qualities if we tackle the hardest part.

You and your partner will get closer

During a quarrel you figure out what is important to your partner, what they love, what they want, how they set boundaries, how flexible they are, what hurts them, and what they need to feel better.

Intimacy after a conflict is almost always worth it and will bring you closer.

You will realize your partner has a personality

Quarrels are quick to dispel the illusion that you have already merged into one as a couple and have a complete mutual understanding. You can always discover something new in your partner.

You will improve

Conflicts are a path to learning to focus on the essentials and realizing that your soulmate is very important to you and you want them to be happy. You will also learn how to be more patient, understanding and caring, and realize the meaning of true love.

You will find that you don’t have to be perfect

Quarrels show that you are only human. Sometimes you are in a bad mood, sometimes you are overwhelmed with stress, and sometimes you are just tired. Accordingly, your relationship cannot always be perfect.

All your inner issues, which you are either aware of or not, will be revealed in close relationships. It’s unavoidable.

Don’t be afraid to show your emotions, and try to resolve all disagreements from the start. Harmonious relationships are not the relationships without quarrels, but those in which there are no reservations and hidden grievances.